A Letter to My Daughters on International Women’s Day


Dear Mallory, Averell and Olivia:

I wish I could silence the critics out there who whisper in harsh voices “Never Enough”. No matter what you have accomplished, they’re will be people and the media who question how thin are you, what you’re wearing and if you have a man in your life.

And when and if you do decide to have children, I hope you don’t encounter the impossibly high standards of modern motherhood, where the world focuses on getting you “body back” after baby, more than it celebrates a body that created the miracle of life.

Perhaps you will recognize the painful stab of “Never Enough”, when you watch other women, who have spent a whole life cultivating a successful career and fighting for issues that they believe in, only to be told to smile more and to be friendlier. It’s as though they think that women’s assertiveness and their ambitions turn women into shrews. Successful men are never held up to the same kind of scrutiny.

This will leave you asking what to do when people criticize you. I find hope in Lady Gaga’s (who thought!) graceful response to her critics:

“Be you, and be relentlessly you.”

For this reason, I urge you to not allow the words of others to hold too much weight. Don’t let the pursuit of unachievable perfection rob your happiness and cloud your ability to accurately perceive your strengths, or steal you from the joy of celebrating your accomplishments. Don’t listen when the world tells you that you are not enough.

Inevitably there will be days where you feel like you do not measure up and will need someone to remind you that you do. I promise to be that someone.

Be smart, be brave, be fierce, be kind, but most of all BE YOU! And remember that always and no matter what, that is enough.

I love you,

Mom

 

 

 

Jennifer

Tag along as I share musings on everything from family to business, which will hopefully inspire you and stir the mind. I am happy that you are along for the journey. Here’s to Living Lively!

17 Comments

  • Lou Ann
    March 9, 2017 at 4:44 pm

    Well said! I am forwarding to Elizabeth.
    xoxo

  • Theresa Moore
    March 9, 2017 at 5:23 pm

    Jennifer this is so touching and beautiful, it just warms my heart, yet saddens it at the same time to be reminded that these things still go on. Your daughters are lucky you are their mom, and we are lucky to have you as a friend!
    xoxo

  • Jan
    March 9, 2017 at 5:43 pm

    A wonderful letter to three beautiful and accomplished daughters – from a wise and loving Mother – who recognizes, no matter how old they may be, the importance of her unconditional support for being true to themselves, and by inspiring them to do that, they will always be “more than enough”. A true love letter!

  • Connie
    March 9, 2017 at 6:05 pm

    Lovely note to your girls, Jennifer!

  • Brynne
    March 9, 2017 at 6:11 pm

    Absolutely beautiful ! They are lucky girls to have you as their mother! I am forwarding this on to my 25 year old daughter, thank you Jennifer!

  • Mary Toboni
    March 9, 2017 at 6:32 pm

    Jennifer……What an incredibly touching note to your girls. No wonder each of them are such kind, intelligent, caring and beautiful people inside and out. Your letter brought tears to my eyes. They are lucky to have a Mom like you..and in turn for you to have daughters like the three of them. All blessed ❤️ Xo., Mary

  • Jennifer
    Jennifer
    March 9, 2017 at 7:21 pm

    Thanks Mary! Your comment means a lot to me coming from a woman, who manages to do it all, and raise 5 FANTASTIC kids.

  • Jennifer
    Jennifer
    March 9, 2017 at 7:22 pm

    Thanks Brynne for your thoughtful comment and for sharing it with your daughter.

  • Jennifer
    Jennifer
    March 9, 2017 at 7:23 pm

    Hi Connie:
    Thanks for your sweet comment. I miss you. Let’s get together soon.

  • Jennifer
    Jennifer
    March 9, 2017 at 7:27 pm

    Jan, thank you for your supportive and loving comment. My “girls” are certainly lucky to have you as an Aunt!

  • Jennifer
    Jennifer
    March 9, 2017 at 7:30 pm

    Hi Theresa:
    Thanks for your kind and supportive comment. We mothers need to stick together to support our young daughters, especially with all the ate that’s going on around them.

    I so appreciate your ongoing friendship!

  • Tina Fairbanks
    March 10, 2017 at 5:03 am

    Jennifer,

    Your girls are so fortunate to have you there to shine a light on the truly important things in life. It such an important lesson to learn that others cannot make your happiness or success only enhance it but more importantly do not allow others to diminish the amazing person you are.
    Wags and Purrs,

  • LA CONTESSA
    March 10, 2017 at 4:38 pm

    VERY TOUCHING!
    XX

  • Laurel Whitworth
    March 10, 2017 at 6:58 pm

    Jennifer,
    Your letter brings tears to my eyes. I have shared this on my facebook page. I hope that is okay with you. What lovely, heartfelt and powerful letter to your girls.
    Love,
    Laurie

  • Jennifer
    Jennifer
    March 11, 2017 at 1:41 am

    Thanks Laurel for sharing it!

  • Jennifer
    Jennifer
    March 11, 2017 at 1:42 am

    Thanks Contessa!

  • Jennifer
    Jennifer
    March 11, 2017 at 1:42 am

    Thanks Tina for your comment. You’re the best!

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